Ill just leave this here...

I'm sorry, when it comes to threads I seem to have an ability to remember seeing one that has been previously been made. I think it's because I have been around these parts for nearly 6 yrs.

Don't hate me... Already a thread

A few tips: Make sure you're logged into the forum. If you refresh the page then the passphrase will move. It is unique to you so none of use can tell you what it is. Take your time, if you cannot concentrate then go do something else for a bit and come back to it. This is the important bit - Speak every word out loud (it will become very obvious, so obvious in fact it's like you have been slapped in the face with a wet fish). It is there. Best of luck.

I will admit I do miss The Gray Fangs headquarters (Solace) sitting proudly on top of Klen. Settlements only work well when there are enough people to oversee/run it. Tends to go well for a bit the is descends into a shit show of groups initiating on them constantly which happened to Solace eventually. If it happens there needs to be a balanced amount settlements to spread the RP load so it's not concentrated on a couple places or conversely not enough going on which is a difficult thing to judge. Saying all that I'd like to see a few more permanent settlements dotted around.

Samarara

Much famousity 10/10

Coffee? Pancakes? It'd be rude not to offer breakfast.

I like the new sig.

Banned for changing your sig, (not sure when you changed it but it's different from the one I used to be used to).

10/10 (especially the BeanZ War thread).

It is a shitty thing to do but nothing is truly private on the internet, so I say tread carefully due to this kind of thing happening before. I would however prefer the chance of the accused party to talk to the person that it is directed at. We all say things in the heat of the moment and having the chance to apologise is surely better than a straight up ban without having that chance to at least explain it. However if it's a repeated action then what do people expect?

I must say that I have no idea what the recent situations have been as I have not been particularly active on the forums so I'll base what I'm going to say on what I have seen over my time in this community. This subject has come up in the past and there is always a biased view on this from whatever side of the 'offense line' you fall on. I actually agree with some of what is being said about people being over sensitive (OOC stuffs gets in way sometimes which can cloud judgement), I have always advocated for educating someone over punishing them (for at least the first offence) however: The problem I see regularly on the forums and it's something I don't like is people saying stuff like get a thicker skin, stop acting like a child, it's just banter etc. Telling some people to get a thicker skin is like telling some people to grow another arm, it's not as easy as that. Some of the people I work with IRL do not have the ability or confidence to take so called banter very well, I always thought banter was meant to between friends who you knew rather than someone who you have never really talked to before so you cannot have any idea how they will react. You can easily make your point/give your opinion without the need to use potentially offensive content. Remember it's only 'friendly banter' when all parties involved at least know each other a bit and are comfortable taking it and dishing it out. Again everyone is different and will react differently so people need to respect that, how can you expect someone to react a certain way to what you're saying without really knowing them? If you don't care how you act and who you offend then you should be comfortable with the potential consequences of that because everyone is not the same. Being offended is about personal perspective, you cannot tell someone that they should react in a certain way (it's just banter etc.) and then you yourself become offended by the response you get when you don't really know them. It's not about maintaining a nice guy exterior either as @BreadERP put it or putting up a false version of yourself but it's about knowing when to use said banter, for example I act differently with people at work (being professional) then I do with my friends because I know the boundaries of the relationship between the two sets of people is different. If I acted the same at work as I did with my friends then I wouldn't be in a job right now and that is not about me being false it's about me being realistic. It's not really about what you say but it's about how you say it, if I turn round to a friend and say "you're and idiot" then they know I'm more than likely saying it in a jokey way but if I say the same thing to a random person or someone I have never really talked to then I'll more than likely get a different, possibly negative response. Fortunately we live in a world where people will not react in the same way because if we did then it would be a boring place. tl:dr - Apologies for the wall of text above (I did try to break it up a bit), all I'll say is before you hit that post button re-read what you have written and take a few seconds to think about if you really want to post it, and if you do then all I can say is don't be surprised if the response isn't a good one. You have to ask yourself if you want to place yourself in a potentially provocative situation with what you are saying. People need to stop and think before they act/type and that goes for whatever side of the discussion you fall under, knee jerk reactions don't tend to end well. No matter what comes up in this thread or what I have said above will ultimately is not likely make a difference unless people see start to see both sides of the argument but as we know and have seen that's a very difficult thing to accomplish.