Potential Toxicity in the Community

[Annoying Rooster]

So I didn't have much encounters with most people in the past, but I spent my time listening and seeing complaints, reports, and feuds both online and offline and it sort of leaves me concerned that certain people in the community maybe taking things a little too far and are forgetting that this is a video game and were all here to enjoy our time in each other's company, providing excellent writing and experience.

 

I'm not going to write a wall of text, but I just wanted to open a discussion on what everyones thoughts are in the most honest manner. If we can be better/improve our behavior or if everything is fine. Everyone may have different opinions, but the most I've seen has been nothing but negative so I think it's important to just open a discussion.

[AndreyQ]

Toxicity on the internet?

It can't be...

[Rover]

The vocal minority are that way, sure.

You don't see the majority that gets talked out in private, in helpdesks, etc. Typically what boils up in the common areas is the disgruntled side of things.

[Banshee]

Toxicity is human nature.

There will always be people that disagree with others or dislike them for whatever reason they may have, there's nothing that can be done about it as it is just the way us humans work. The problem arises when people feel the need to go out of their way and actively harass and/or make fun of those people. Sadly there is not much that can be done about it as the decision to do such things lie with the person themselves, not those around them. There is no real way to prevent any of it from happening, so the only thing we can do is put a stop to it when we know that it is happening.

[Para]

Whilst toxicity exists, there's also a lot of good shit that people do. I see a lot of forgiveness / talking things out go on in the community, it just doesn't get spread around because it doesn't need to be public. 

Best way to deal with negativity is to drown it out with positivty

[Eagle]

Not everyone loves each other.

[Nozzy]

hang with the people you want to hang with OOC. Don't hang with the people you hate.

Don't take OOC relations IC 

simple as 

Edited February 11, 2020 by EndeavourRP

[Nova]

people forget that it's okay to "lose" in RP

i think that's the main driver of toxicity from what i've seen.

 

[Elmo]

Most toxicity stems from people's inability to accept when they're wrong and move on like mature adults. DayZRP is no different.

[Terra]

Not the first thread about that...

Community rules are in place for toxic behaviour, IC and OOC. People will get points/bans. Some will learn, others will have their names crossed through.

 

 

[Leik]

i mean at the end of the day when you have this many diffrent pepole with diffrent wievs on things atleast a little toxicity is unavoidable especially when things like gear, over sensitivity and dark humor with all the diversity that comes with servers like this to be honest i do not see a way avoid such things i mean they are gonna happend and thats just the way it is on RP servers

Edited February 16, 2020 by Leik

[God]

Im going to reply very shortly to this.. This is the internet not everyone is going to get along just don't bring it IC. 

[Annoying Rooster]

6 hours ago, God said:

Im going to reply very shortly to this.. This is the internet not everyone is going to get along just don't bring it IC. 

From my point of view and from the group's I've been in the past, that's easier said than done. And were to be naive to think that people don't take OOC bitterness ICly

[Faygo]

I'm reminded over and over again not to take this too personally. And by "this" I mean the internet, DayZRP, and just online interactions in general. It's insanely difficult to remember that in the heat of the moment, especially if you wear your emotions on your sleeve like I do. 

 

However, it's just about finding that right group for you. It's okay to admit you might not find it any time soon. Just gotta keep searching and not dwell on some internet jerk who's probably not going to remember you in a day anyway - so why waste energy on them?

[Faygo]

On 2/12/2020 at 9:01 AM, Terra said:

Not the first thread about that...

Community rules are in place for toxic behaviour, IC and OOC. People will get points/bans. Some will learn, others will have their names crossed through.

 

 

I try to keep this in mind as well, but all too often i've seen someone's name get crossed out only to see them back a couple days later. And this seems to be a common occurrence. Since when did the definition of "permanent" change?

Edited February 17, 2020 by Deimos

[Guest]

OOC hate and toxicity are part of the community I don't think there's any real doubt about that. To be fair what can you expect from a game that pits groups of people against each other. People can claim they keep IC and OOC apart but by playing with your friends you'll form a group identity sooner or later. From my experience it helps to abide by some unwritten rules of the community to at least not be all out hated. Try not to take things people outside your group say to heart and never turn on your own. 

[Player 1]

I'm in a REALLY good mood while writing this, but I think people being jerks or toxic is bound to happen. What I think the real issue is, people do not want to talk things out and work out their differences. And I'm talking about reaching out to someone and saying, "let's talk about this," but most of all, in MY OPINION, there is a lack of forgiveness. And I'm talking about water under the bridge kind of forgiveness or at least remembering and forgiving. And I've seen it done before and it's beautiful. Maybe this happens behind the scenes more often than I know. This is just my opinion. There are days when forgiving someone can be difficult or impossible. Give it time. Not the "I don't care" forgiveness, true forgiveness. This community does believe in second chances and forgiveness. Let alone justice, but forgiveness is a big part of this server and the Staff. 

Edited February 17, 2020 by Tiger-chan

[KaneIsMyName]

Couple things play into this. And I preface my post by saying I include myself somewhere in the mix. 
1. You put enough people together, toxic personalities will present themselves. Out of a hundred people, some are bound to be the types that take it very personally when you take their lootz
2. Gamers, in general, have some innate sense of entitlement. They tend to think they deserve things their way.  They tend to think they know what is best. They tend to think they are always right. And they're tenacious in proving themselves.
3. Role players are dramatic by nature. And while I think they actually carry less a sense of entitlement as other gamers, they take wanting things their way, thinking they are right and know what is best to the next level. You can't get them to let go of a bone once they have latched on.

You cant rely on mods. They will always do their best. But they will either let toxicity go on too long or will overreact when no toxicity exists. You can't rely on the community. Community policing worked back when the town could storm the house and string up the problem. No such power of provocation here on the internet. Really all you can do is what has been suggested. Stick with people you like in game, treat the boards/discord like Chuck E Cheese's (only go there when you realllly have to and leave as soon as possible) and ignore any toxic folks while you are here/there.
 

[Poster]

As someone new on the server, I have experienced some good RP scenarios.. but outside of those occasional good times I have experienced and overwhelming amount of assholes. Just genuine assholes, I find little to no RP reason behind it (again I'm new, maybe it takes some digging of the stories?) but it can be disheartening. I stay around the populated areas to find the masses who enjoy interacting with people.